It's been a long time since............

Wow...I look at the date of my last blog and wonder where the time went?  Well, actually, that's a strange thing to say because I know exactly where it has gone.  Time has been passing quickly, slowly, happily, and miserably.  So much has happened...birth and death of grandchildren and other loved ones. 

I have grown older, but I have also grown wiser.  So many changes is what is actually a short time.  I do have new outlooks on many things...good and bad.  I am not an authority on anything.  I do not have freebies to share.  I just have life experiences that I want to share.  It's like when I was teaching school...if I help one, then I succeed.

I do know I want to share learning experiences with any who wish to read.  I am just me...a wife, mother, Gigi, friend, daughter, SIDS statistic...and so much more...I am a loving person. 

The ADD monster

Sometimes I think that if they had resource classes when I was in elementary school I would have been there for ADD. I am, let's say over 39, and still need coping skills to focus. I have good intentions, but I never finish what I start....guess that why the house is in disarray.

I really can't imagine being inside a child's mind that is truly ADD or ADHD and having to sit in a classroom all day. It must be like a jail. Imprisoned in a body with a mind that notices everything around you, but not being able to focus on any one thing. It's sad because so many of these children are the brighter kids. I have a great niece who is obviously ADD, and I watch her begin a project with all of the energy she has, but not long into it she is pulling at her hair, playing with her fingers, and has lost focus, not necessarily interest. It's not her fault.

I have friends with adult ADD, and it is hard for them to cope with it. If it were a matter of just not paying attention it would be a lot easier to handle. There is so much more to it than that. Just think, how many children are punished for that "not paying attention' when they are actually doing all they can in that department.

These kids need all the support at home that they can possibly receive to make learning important to them. Having parents that forget to sign reportcards, other papers that need returning to school, or show little or no interest in homework do not help matters. Unfortunately, this occurs with her, and I wonder if it doesn't worsen the effects of the ADD in general. I understand busy schedules, yes, I worked the whole time my daughter was in school, but I did return the necessary information back to school on time. I made sure I showed an interest in anything from school...large or small...so she would know that it was important.

I have mixed emotions and opinions about medicine for ADD, but with testing that includes a test booklet and a separate answer sheet that has to be bubbled beginning as early as third grade, well, sometimes it makes sense that one has to focus. I really don't know, I do know I wish I had a magic cure. There is nothing sadder than being in a classroom and watching some struggling just to focus on a task, especially when you know the intelligence and knowledge is there. Also, one has to consider what the constant avalanche of stimuli does to a child's view of him or herself. I know I don't like myself on days when I get nothing accomplished because I hopped from one thing to another because I thought I was getting lots done...just to end the day in worse shape than I started. I'm grown and it's still hard to see that happen. A child's frustration must be enormous.

Parents, please, focus on the importance of your child's education. If you don't, the teachers can't alone. Children look to parents for guidance and direction, so when papers or reports or an art project comes home, take an interest. It is in your child's best interest that they have a belief that learning is important, and that it is expected of them to learn...or do all they can to learn.

Share stories and opinions...this is a common problem among children.

They get, we lose

If you ever have time to kill, money to waste, and want to speak with some very interesting people then call Country Wide Home Loans.....no this is not a pay per post or anything of the sort. They aren't giving us a thing...that's for sure...except the end of the stick nobody needs.

Over a year ago I did request a modification so our interest could be lowered from double digits, and that our ARM be locked in. We had already experienced the multiple layoffs, and it wasn't due to the election, so let's not go there.

Over two years, my husband had been laid off twice, and this hurts the budget. We are one of the millions that live on a budget, and when the main source it cut off, well, you come up short. Single digit interest rates sounded good and would surely help ends meet.

Well, a year passed, and guess what? We got out modification or whatever it is. Now, I bet you are probably feeling what I have felt about all the bailouts people get to compensate for overspending on housing..........wrong!!! We still have double digit interest, a higher monthly payment, and owe more than we did on the house. Now, I am not a rocket scientist, but something sounds strange to me.
I was in regular contact with CW, and I never talked to the same person twice. They always told me that I would get back to the same department, but was not assured of speaking to them. Well, they knew their business there, I never got back to the same department. Phone numbers were disconnected that I had used only a week ago.

Now, there were some who wanted to help....they need a halo. I think they knew what little they were told, and wanted to have their client know they weren't in this alone. Bless, them...the meek shall inherit and I hope they do.

How can people working for the same company have so many different answers to the same question? It's totally awesome how a big company can bounce you around for so long, and then end up screwing up everything. Then, you get a young man who has the gaul, after a year of this mess, that asks you how you ended up in this situation with your payments???????????? What mess, and what business is it of his. All we wanted was to keep the ARM from adjusting...too much to ask for? At this point I don't have faith in too much of anything. I have two weeks to decide what to do.....but remember they had a year to piddle and fiddle with our home.

I love the department names....Hope, Heart, etc. Why don't they tell you about the we don't give a crap department or the shaft department. I do believe there is an evil spirit running around in all the departments playing with the paperwork and computers. Oh, and one department cannot see the carefully guarded "loan folder" from the other. How, why, when, where......what do ya do?

Bad boy, what ya gonna do when they come for you??? Take the additional millions and play with other peoples' minds, hearts, and homes? We started this thing last July, and we never wanted anything free. I don't want to honk when I see the bumper stickers about the honking if I am helping to make your house payment or whatever they are.

It concerns me and should everyone who pays taxes...the fact that they are getting this money, but evidently still do not know how to run a company. I can only speak of CW home loans, but it seems the government needs to send a person with the money to help them learn why they got the money. Remember, I don't want the money to help us...but, our situation taught me very quickly that they simply don't give a damn about their clients. So why should they worry about where our tax money they were given goes. Lord knows, the heart department doesn't have a heart, the hope department gives no hope, and let's just pray as a nation that there is no brain department....well, I really don't think we have to worry about that one.

Factor 5 blood disease

In my last blog, I mentioned I had family living with us now. It's different, but I love having young children in the house again.
My niece's husband has Factor 5 blood disorder. I have researched it, but I would love to hear from people who have the disorder also.
Please let me know. Thanks!!!